The saying goes that a house in mourning is not ignored, because of the cries and wailing, the religious music often played loudly, and of the large number of people coming and going. In fact, neighbours, members of the near and distant family, members of the church and / or ethnic associations take turns assisting the family, so that they do not feel alone.
But when there are conflicts, due to broken relationships and opposition between Christians and non-Christians, that moral and physical support may be lacking and one may feel alone in the crowd. This is what happened when we lost our mother on April 11, 2017.
To explain the background, my sisters and I had just moved into the neighbourhood; we hardly knew anybody and we were not yet part of any group, choir, neighbours' meeting or ethnic association. As for the wiring of the house, it was still very unstable and did not allow the use of the devices. As a result, when that day came, we couldn't even count on the crowd or religious music to alleviate these difficult times.